‘Even a thousand miles can’t keep up apart’


Distance is a relationship’s worst enemy.

Elizabeth Darling, Photo Editor

      Many people suggest that distance makes the heart grow fonder.  With technology and social media, long distant relationships are more prevalent now than ever before.  Families and friends may be supportive, but are secretly against it because they don’t want to see a difficult heartbreak.     

      Let’s be honest, it will not be easy, but that is the point of a relationship.  If you are not willing to put in the work for a long distance relationship, then don’t even focus on dating and end it before it gets more challenging.  At times, loneliness will set when the memories start to come back, but if you stay busy and focus your mind on something other than that specific person it will become easier.  

      Some ideas to keep a relationship from deteriorating shortly after the separations are try to avoid talking 24/7 because it could make things worse by missing them more.  Another way is try to communicate regularly whether that is once a day (in the morning or evening), or a few times a week.  You shouldn’t cut them completely out but don’t bother the significant other with everyday problems.  Video chatting is one of the best ways to remain neutral with not to much or too little, you are able to see the person and know they are focused on you for however long that may be.  Communication is key in any relationship but is a necessity in long distance.  

      Make a schedule for time both parties will be free and stick with it so you don’t lose the communication aspect of a relationship.  Every other day, call each other at a certain time, or once a week call for a longer amount of time to talk about how that week was.  Knowing each other’s schedules will help with sending out random texts throughout the day.  If you know when they get up, send a good morning text or if they are on their way to class, messages like these will notify the other that you are thinking about them.  

      Planning a time to visit will excite one another and give them something to look forward to.  Depending on the distance a long weekend would be a significant change in pace and advantage to the relationship.  If your long distance is across the country then a longer visit for two weeks to a month are more reasonable.  

      Long distance relationship can be tough and heart wrenching, but remaining positive is the only way to get through it.  If thoughts of breaking up come about, talk it out.  No matter what don’t keep things for yourself or else things will get bottled up and not honest.  Remember, “If you want to live together, you first need to learn how to live apart.”