Why Parents Shouldn’t Spank Their Kids


Cindy Oyervides, Reporter

      Spanking, or slapping a child on their butt, has been around for quite some time and still exists today. Some parents are against it while others do it without a second thought. While many may view the punishment as harmless and even useful, the outcome of the act on some children has proven otherwise. Spanking has declined as more people have began thinking about the possible negative impacts it may have on their child but there are still plenty of families doing it.

     Would you ever want to purposefully hurt your child? If not, then spanking should be completely off limits for you. Spanking requires a person to use their open palm to forcefully hit the bottom of a young child. The spanking can be done for prolonged periods of time depending on what a parent deems best fit for that punishment. If a parent isn’t doing it softly and is doing it the way everybody does it, then chances are their child will be crying in just a few short seconds. The pain from the contact will overwhelm the child and will lead to them crying because of the pain you put them in. In addition to the immediate pain, a child will also experience involuntary negative memories about what just happened. These two things may not seem that bad but when it’s done to a child that will grow from experiences it will scar them.

    Spanking can leave a child feeling bad about themselves in several different aspects. Children are very impressionable people and if you let your child grow up thinking that they deserve to be hit to the point of crying by a person that claims to love them they may not grow up believing that. Spanking may also lead to a child fearing not being good enough for you. While a parent may not spank their child during their teenage years, the fear could still be there. That fear usually goes away with most children but you can never guarantee anything.

     A feeling of distance may arise within a child and their parent if their parent spanks them. That distance would come from the thoughts that run through their head after they’ve been spanked. If a parent doesn’t tell their child they love them after they do it a child might not ever feel loved. But even if a parent does decide to say it, a child might still not believe it because they’d wonder how they are loved if their parents are making them cry.

     Spanking to some sounds a lot like a last resort because of the immediate impact it has on a child. To these parents, they see a vast array of options for punishment instead of just using spanking as a way to force your child to listen to you. Some of the options these parents have include simply saying no, rewarding good behavior, and taking away privileges. The parents can also choose to use time out, telling them to go to their room, and having them stand in the corner. Methods such as these ones don’t require violence against a child and are very effective.

     Another reason some parents choose not to spank their kids is because they’ve learned that spanking can ruin the amount of gray matter in their child’s brain. Grey matter in the brain is found in the prefrontal cortex and helps people make decisions. Grey matter is also linked to depression, addiction, and other mental health issues. Parents that don’t want to increase the chances of their child experiencing these things don’t spank their kids because spanking has been proven to impact the likelihood of someone experiencing this in their life. There isn’t any good that comes out of spanking and people that don’t do it see that. There’s a list of negative things that come out of spanking but absolutely no positive yet some people continue to do it over and over.

     Spanking in general is a very controversial topic. Although it is up to a parent to decide what they want to do with their child as punishment, they should be educated before they go ahead with their decision. Violence, potential mental health issues, and permanent scarring are all possible when you spank a child.